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Bunga Yang Cantik Jarang Harum

Ustaz Pahrol Mohd Juoi | 01 Mei 2011 16:40

Wanita sinonim dengan kecantikan. Istilah “cermin” dalam bahasa Arab dekat sangat dengan wanita – kerana cermin itu dekat pula dengan kecantikan. Bercermin untuk kelihatan cantik. Ke mana-mana wanita pergi, cermin ada di sisi. Bagi yang tidak cantik bagaimana? Mereka bukan wanita?

Tunggu dulu, setiap yang Allah cipta pasti indah kerana Allah itu Maha Indah dan suka pada keindahan. Tuhan tidak mencipta manusia hodoh, Tuhan hanya mencipta manusia dengan kecantikan berbeza. Jadi, ingat itu… setiap wanita berhak untuk cantik!

Soalnya, di manakah letaknya kecantikan sebenar pada seorang wanita? 

Kalau kita tanyakan kepada para lelaki maka sudah pasti kita akan temui pelbagai jawapan.  Ada yang merasakan kecantikan wanita itu pada wajah, pada bentuk tubuh, pada kebijaksanaan atau pada tingkah lakunya.  Dan pada yang menyatakan kecantikan pada wajah pula terbahagi kepada pelbagai pandangan, ada yang mengatakan kecantikannya terletak pada hidung, pada mata dan sebagainya. 

Pendekata kecantikan itu bagi anggapan sesetengah orang sangat relatif sifatnya.  Lain orang, lain penilaiannya.

Namun sebagai seorang Islam, kita tentulah ada kayu ukur tersendiri untuk menilai kecantikan. Kita tentunya mengukur kecantikan wanita mengikut kayu ukur Islam. Dan tentu sahaja kecantikan yang menjadi penilaian Islam adalah lebih hakiki dan abadi lagi.

Misalnya, kalaulah kecantikan itu hanya terletak pada wajah, wajah itu lambat-laun akan dimakan usia. Itu hanya bersifat sementara. Apabila usia meningkat, kulit akan berkedut tentulah wajah tidak cantik lagi. Jadi tentulah ini bukan ukuran kecantikan yang sejati dan abadi.

Sebagai hamba Allah, kita hendaklah melihat kecantikan selaras dengan penilaian Allah atas keyakinan apa yang dinilai oleh-Nya lebih tepat dan betul.

Apakah kecantikan yang dimaksudkan itu? Kecantikan yang dimaksudkan ialah kecantikan budi pekerti ataupun akhlak. Itulah misi utama kedatangan Rasulullah SAW – untuk menyempurnakan akhlak manusia.

Kecantikan akhlak jika ada pada seseorang, lebih kekal. Inilah kecantikan yang hakiki mengikut penilaian Allah. Hancur badan dikandung tanah, budi baik di kenang juga. Kecantikan akhlak ini juga adalah satu yang lebih abadi. Kata pepatah lagi, hutang budi dibawa mati. Malah akhlak yang baik juga sangat disukai oleh hati manusia. Contohnya, kalaulah ada orang yang wajahnya sahaja cantik tetapi akhlaknya buruk, pasti dia akan dibenci.

Ya, mata menilai kecantikan pada rupa. Akal menilai pada fikiran. Nafsu menilai pada bentuk tubuh. Tetapi hati tentulah pada akhlak dan budi. Kecantikan akhlak ini diterima oleh semua orang. Katalah orang jujur, siapa pun suka. Semua orang sepakat menyayangi orang yang jujur itu disukai. Sedangkan jika menurut ukuran rupa, penilaian manusia tetap tidak sama. Sebab itu ada pepatah yang mengatakan, ‘beauty in the eye of beholder’.

Rasulullah SAW juga telah pernah menegaskan, sebaik-baik perhiasan adalah wanita yang solehah. Wanita solehah ialah perhiasan rumah-tangga, perhiasan masyarakat dan perhiasan negara. Jika ada ibu yang solehah, anak-anaknya tentu mendapat manfaat. Mereka akan terdidik dengan baik.

Jika ada isteri yang solehah, suami pun akan mendapat manfaat. Para isteri ini akan memudahkan urusan rumah-tangga, menjalinkan hubungan keluargha dengan penuh kasih-sayang dan lain-lain. Tutur katanya baik, tingkah lakunya baik, senyumannya menawan dan segala-galanya indah. Mereka bayangan bidadari syurga di dunia ini.

Kenapa banyak wanita yang memiliki kecantikan tetapi musnah hidupnya?

Ada ungkapan yang berbunyi, kemusnahan akan menimpa bilawanita mula merasai dirinya cantik dan mempamirkan kecantikan. Sejauhmana benarnya, wallahua’lam. Tetapi apa yang pasti, menurut Islam jika kecantikan tidak disertai iman yang kuat, maka pemiliknya akan hilang kawalan diri. Akibatnya ramai wanita cantik diperdayakan oleh syaitan untuk menggoda manusia melakukan kemungkaran. Lihatlah di sekeliling kita.

Kata orang, bunga yang cantik jarang yang harum! Ini sudah menjadi sesuatu yang lumrah.

Tanpa iman, kecantikan akan dipergunakan ke arah kejahatan dan kemaksiatan, yang akhirnya akan memusnahkan diri pemiliknya dan orang lain. Cuba kita lihat apa yang terjadi kepada bintang filem barat (di sinipun apa kurangnya), ada yang memporak-perandakan negara, rumah-tangga dan berakhir dengan sakit jiwa dan bunuh diri.

Cantik tidak salah, tetapi salah menggunakan kecantikkan itulah yang salah. Kata orang, wanita yang cantik jarang berakhlak. Umpama bunga yang cantik, jarang yang wangi. Tetapi kalau cantik dan berakhlak pula, inilah yang hebat. Umpama cantiknya wanita solehah pada zaman nabi seperti Siti Aishah RA, Atikah binti Zaid dan lain-lain.

Bagaimana mendapat kecantikan sejati?

Perlu kita faham kecantikan itu bermula dari dalam ke luar. Bukan sebaliknya. Oleh itu pertama, tanamkan di dalam hati kita iman yang benar-benar kuat berdasarkan ilmu yang tepat dan penghayatan yang tinggi. Iman itu keyakinan, kasih sayang, kemaafan, sangka baik dan reda. Rasa-rasa ini buktikanlah dengan perbuatan yang baik. Bila hati baik, wajah akan sentiasa cantik.

Jadi perkara kedua ialah susulilah iman itu dengan perbuatan yang baik. Ertinya, kita atur kehidupan mengikut syariat atau peraturan Tuhan. Dan apabila iman ditanam, syariat ditegakkan, akan berbuahlah akhlak yang mulia. Wajah, perilaku dan peribadi kita akan nampak cantik sekali. Inilah yang dikatakan kecantikan yang hakiki.

Biar buruk rupa, jangan buruk perangai. Apa gunanya mulut yang cantik kalau kita gunakan untuk mengumpat?

Ya, kecantikan akhlak boleh dimiliki oleh sesiapa sahaja, oleh yang rupawan mahupun yang hodoh. Itu bukti keadilan Allah yang mencipta wanita dengan berbagai wajah dan rupa tapi peluangnya untuk “cantik” tetap serupa!

(Artikel iluvislam.com)

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Ustaz Pahrol Mohd Juoi merupakan seorang penulis buku, artikel, lirik nasyid dan juga skrip. Salah satu buku karangan beliau adalah ‘Tentang Cinta.’  Penulis kelahiran Ipoh, Perak ini merupakan seorang master trainer untuk syarikat Fitrah Perkasa Sdn. Bhd. dan juga ketua editor majalah Solusi terbitan syarikat Telaga Biru Sdn Bhd. Blog beliau adalah http://www.genta-rasa.com.

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May 1, 2011 at 2:35 pm Leave a comment

Your 5-minute guide to budgeting

‘Budget’ is not a four-letter word, but many people avoid it like one. These 20 tips can help you face up to your finances and achieve your monetary goals.

By MSN Money staff

 

Budgeting isn’t a punishment for not being born wealthy.

 

It’s an avenue to know where your money goes and help you reach your financial goals, whether it’s a new home, a comfortable retirement or just making it to your next paycheck. (See the video “Budget your way to smarter spending.”)

 

When all is said and done, you simply can’t spend more than you make, at least not for long. (See “Money trouble? It’s your own fault.”)

 

What’s going out?

 

The first step is figuring out where your money goes right now. Use an online worksheet or a plain old notebook to keep track of your spending for a few weeks. Go through your checkbook and credit card statements. Add up the amounts, and you’ll have a good idea about your spending habits. (Take our “Savvy Spending Quiz.”)

 

A few things to consider:

  • Common budget categories include housing (rent or mortgage, homeowner dues), recurring bills (cable, utilities, insurance and credit card minimums), food and entertainment.
  • Let your categories fit your life. You might have expenses for school-related items (tuition and books), pet care or travel. If your hobby is your passion, make it a category.
  • Account for big expenses that occur once or twice a year, such as car insurance.

 

What’s coming in?

 

When your expenses are tallied, go through your pay stubs and calculate your average monthly income. Don’t forget to include interest income, dividends, bonuses and alimony.

Once you know how much you earn and how much you actually spend, decide where and how much you want to spend. Divide by 12, and voilà — you’ve got a monthly budget. Adjust as necessary until your monthly budget equals your monthly income.

Some things to keep in mind:

  • Figure out which of your expenses are wants and which are needs. Actual needs are fairly limited: food, shelter, clothing. Nearly everything else is a want, but even the way we fulfill our needs involves choice. (See “9 money rules to live by.”)
  • Prioritize. Fund your retirement first, no matter what. Put enough in your 401(k) to grab the employer match. Then start tackling your debts.
  • Don’t forget an emergency fund. This will go a long way to keeping you out of debt should the unexpected happen — and it will. If you don’t have funds now, use your income-tax refund or set up a regular electronic transfer from checking to savings. (See “Why you need $500 in the bank” and the video “Everyone needs an emergency fund.”)

 

Take a little off the edges

 

Once you’re on your way, keep track — at first weekly, then monthly — of where you’re going off budget and adjust your allocations.

 

Food, for instance, often goes unchallenged. You might wince at the checkout counter, but you do have to eat. Still, there are ways to cut the food budget without sacrificing quality or quantity. (See “Take a big bite out of grocery bills.”)

 

  • Many stores reduce their products based on a 12-week cycle, so notice when something goes on sale, but don’t buy until it hits the rock-bottom price.
  • Keep a notebook for a while so you get to know the rock-bottom prices on items that you frequently purchase. Keep track of which products are cheaper store by store.

 

Food isn’t the only place for savings. Here are some other ideas for keeping your budget on track:

 

  • Review your habits. Do you need the full-on cable package or caller ID? Do you pay full price at a convenience store for items you could buy for less on your weekly grocery shopping trips? (See “When cheap is a way of life.”)
  • Some people fritter away cash; others use a debit card as if it had unlimited credit. Whichever you might be, consider converting. A debit card devotee is more likely to think twice about spending cash, especially if you leave your ATM card at home.
  • If things still aren’t adding up, look at whether you need to adjust your allocations or change your spending habits. (See “5 steps to fix a broken budget.”)

 

Building the budget habit

 

Successful budgeting takes time and persistence so don’t be discouraged if you don’t hit your monthly goals at first. Here are some ideas to make it easier:

 

  • Write it down. If you don’t, you probably won’t stick to it.
  • When good fortune comes your way in the form of an “extra” paycheck or a bonus, pay an annual premium, make an additional mortgage payment or use it for seasonal extras, such as summer vacation costs or Christmas presents. (See “What to do with ‘extra’ paychecks.”)
  • Get into the habit of thinking ahead. If you know your situation is going to change — a new baby, new winter clothes, a new job — plan for it and try to pay cash.
  • Remember, budgeting is the means, not the end. Keep spending “mistakes” in perspective.
  • As your income climbs, don’t splurge until you’re sure you’re staying ahead of inflation. A good budget grows with you, so it’s worth re-evaluating your budget every year.

 

Published Jan. 4, 2008

 

March 29, 2009 at 10:06 am Leave a comment

Malaysia: Election Woes

Oxford Business Group

11 March 2008

Malaysia‘s political landscape was dramatically transformed last weekend as the ruling coalition government, Barisan Nasional (BN), suffered its lowest margin of victory in 50 years. BN secured just under two-thirds of the federal parliament, a significant departure from the previous elections held in 2004, when the party won 90%. Islamist and leftist opposition parties also won control of five of the country’s 13 states, up from one in the previous term.While BN won the election as expected, few observers had anticipated that the crucial two-thirds majority, which allows the government to change the constitution at will, would not be attained.
 

The governing regime has done well to improve the economy, and Malaysia experienced GDP growth of 6.3% in 2007, as well as a 69% jump in foreign direct investment (FDI) to $13.7bn. In this respect, many feel the surprising results stem not from economic, but from political issues, pointing to the unprecedented swing as an indication of growing voter frustrations over inflation, racial tensions and a government that did not perform as much as promised to curb corruption and increase transparency. Since its independence in 1957, Malaysia has had one ruling party with little in the way of opposition representation in parliament, and observers now expect a short period of fragmented government.

The governing party is currently engaged in massive spending programmes, which over the past 12 months have included the introduction of five designated economic development zones. Some fear that many of these projects could be stalled or scaled back should the new state governments decide to review them.

Another concern is related to the potential for a slower decision making process for the passing of crucial economic legislation. For example, BN had indicated prior to the elections that it would review lowering the current subsidy on oil prices in 2008, a policy to which the opposition has already expressed disapproval.With stocks markets across Asia already reeling over investor concerns abuot a possible US recession, the unexpected election results could not have come at a worse time for Malaysia’s stock exchange. On the first Monday of trading after the elections, the benchmark Kuala Lumpur Composite Index (KLCI) fell by 10%. This was the biggest one-day drop since the Asian financial crisis in 1998, and led to the suspension of trading for a brief period towards the end of the day.Share prices in 99 of the top 100 KLCI member companies fell, with major companies linked to the federal government or behind large government projects accounting for the largest declines.

Of the four new states in which the opposition was victorious, foreign investors are looking most closely at the island of Penang, a key manufacturing base and home to major US electronics firms such as Dell, Intel and Motorola. Lim Guan Eng, Penang’s new chief minister elect, has assured foreign investors that the state’s pro-business policies will remain unchanged, telling press, “We will not undertake any policies that will frighten investors away.” Vincent Leusner, president of the American Malaysian Chamber of Commerce, said, “The opposition victories will not hurt American investment.

Nonetheless, analysts believe that foreign investors will act with caution for the time being, in order assess the impact of the opposition influence on economic policies.While, as demonstrated in the stock market, reactions to such dramatic results will often be knee jerk, political and economic observers point out that there may be substantial longer-term positives. As volatility in a country’s election results is generally seen as indicative of the degree of democracy, some have suggested the recent events could be a catalyst for greater transparency and corporate governance. The private sector may be able to look forward to an era of more transparent public tendering and awarding of government projects.Gerald Ambrose, managing director of Aberdeen Asset Management Malaysia, told OBG, “A powerful opposition is a positive development for the long term, providing checks and balances for trillion ringgit government spending.

The absence of violence following such hotly contested elections, as well as the success of opposition parties, are also encouraging signs negating any possible suspicions of elections fraud or deceit.The last time the ruling coalition failed to attain the two-thirds margin was in 1969, when polls were followed by a period of race riots and a declaration of a state of emergency. While the past few days have seen some small-scale demonstrations, they have remained peaceful and orderly, a testament to what many believe is a maturing democracy. 

March 12, 2008 at 2:07 am Leave a comment

Marriage-Minded Women Focus on Men’s Faces

MONDAY, August 13 (Health Day News) — When it comes to a woman’s choice of a life-partner, a man’s face may mean a lot, a new study finds.

 

Many women regard men with masculine facial features — such as a square jaw, larger nose and smaller eyes — as unsuitable long-term partners, because they’re more likely to be domineering, unfaithful, unaffectionate and poor parents, U.K. researchers have found.

 

On the other hand, women believe that men with finer facial features — fuller lips, wide eyes and thinner, more curved eyebrows — to be more committed, less likely to cheat, and to make better parents, said the study by psychologists at Durham and St. Andrews Universities.

 

For this study, British women were asked to view pictures of men’s faces that were digitally altered to look more masculine or feminine and to predict the men’s personality traits, including sexual behavior and parenting skills.

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The findings are published in the current issue of the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

 

“This research shows a high amount of agreement between women about what they see, personality wise, when asked to ‘judge a book by its cover.’ They may well use that impression of someone to decide whether or not to engage with that person. That decision-making process all depends on what a woman is looking for in a relationship at that time of her life,” lead author Dr. Lynda Boothroyd, a lecturer in the department of psychology at Durham University, said in a prepared statement.

She and her colleagues said their findings provide new information about what people see in others when they’re selecting potential partners and may help advance research in areas such as evolutionary biology, fertility and genetics. It may also offer new insights for use in relationship counseling and psychology.

August 15, 2007 at 8:53 am Leave a comment

Best lawyer story of the year

A Charlotte, NC, lawyer purchased a box of very rare and expensive cigars, then insured them against fire, among other things. Within a month, having smoked his entire stockpile of these great cigars and without yet having made even his first premium payment on the policy, the lawyer filed claim against the insurance company. In his claim, the lawyer stated the cigars were lost “in a series of small fires.” The insurance company refused to pay, citing the obvious reason that
the man had consumed the cigars in the normal fashion. The lawyer sued….and WON! (Stay with me now.)

In delivering the ruling, the judge agreed with the insurance company that the claim was frivolous. The judge stated nevertheless, that the lawyer “held a policy from the company in which it had warranted that the cigars were insurable and also guaranteed that it would insure them against fire, without defining what is considered to be unacceptable fire” and was obligated to pay the claim. Rather than endure lengthy and costly appeal process, the insurance company accepted the ruling and paid $15,000 to the lawyer for his loss of the rare cigars lost in the “fires.”

NOW FOR THE BEST PART….Ya GOTTA LOVE this!!

After the lawyer cashed the check, the insurance company had him arrested on 24 counts of ARSON! With his own insurance claim and testimony from the previous case being used against him, the lawyer was convicted of intentionally burning his insured property and was sentenced to 24 months in jail and a $24,000 fine. This is a true story and was the

First Place

winner in the recent Criminal Lawyers Award Contest.  

March 30, 2007 at 7:18 pm Leave a comment

Do You Need to Be Right?

Based on “Thought for the Day: Do You Need to Be Right?” By Dianna Podmoroff
Thought for the day is a regular feature at the Mind Tools Career Excellence Club
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Is being right more important to you than reaching agreements, or getting along with others? In a world where knowledge and education are valuable commodities, it’s easy to get caught up in wanting to be right all the time. You’re smart and educated, so why shouldn’t what you say be right?

Think about this – even if you ARE right, if asserting that fact results in damaged relationships, failures to reach agreement, or excessive time wasted arguing, is being right really worth it?

When you allow others to be right, you open yourself up to other perspectives, and you are perceived as a person who is willing to negotiate and reach agreements; not just argue to the death.

When you are experiencing conflict try saying, “You are right.” Watch how the dynamic of the conversation changes. Certainly there are times when being right is the only path to pursue: But when being right becomes your mantra on every point, every time, that’s when you need to step back and ask yourself why it is so important.

Try finding ways in which the other person is right: It’s a great starting place for negotiating your win-win solution!

March 29, 2007 at 2:20 am Leave a comment

The Most Beautiful Word in the English Language

This is an interesting article by Bruna Martinuzzi.

The Most Beautiful Word in the English Language

Many years ago, one of my university professors mentioned that “windowsill” was voted the most beautiful word in the English language. Being an armchair linguist, this factoid naturally stayed with me. Words have enormous power. They can make us erupt into laughter or bring tears to our eyes. They can influence, inspire, manipulate and shock. They can build and destroy. Some words have different effects on different people.

One such word is humility.

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March 26, 2007 at 9:16 am 1 comment

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