Do You Need to Be Right?
Based on “Thought for the Day: Do You Need to Be Right?” By Dianna Podmoroff
Thought for the day is a regular feature at the Mind Tools Career Excellence Club.
Is being right more important to you than reaching agreements, or getting along with others? In a world where knowledge and education are valuable commodities, it’s easy to get caught up in wanting to be right all the time. You’re smart and educated, so why shouldn’t what you say be right?
Think about this – even if you ARE right, if asserting that fact results in damaged relationships, failures to reach agreement, or excessive time wasted arguing, is being right really worth it?
When you allow others to be right, you open yourself up to other perspectives, and you are perceived as a person who is willing to negotiate and reach agreements; not just argue to the death.
When you are experiencing conflict try saying, “You are right.” Watch how the dynamic of the conversation changes. Certainly there are times when being right is the only path to pursue: But when being right becomes your mantra on every point, every time, that’s when you need to step back and ask yourself why it is so important.
Try finding ways in which the other person is right: It’s a great starting place for negotiating your win-win solution!
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